As I hastily approach my one year anniversary as a blogger (I published my first post on January 6th 2013) I can’t help but look back in review on the year that has gone (a more concrete review to come). One year later, am I where I saw myself being when I first set out on this lifelong journey of mine?
Not exactly. But that has to be seen in the light that my impulse still is to be overly self-critical.
In general, people will tend to highly factor in your own self-ascribed status in their view of you. Once a negative spiral is set in motion, it is very difficult to turn it around. So one of the most important things I learned in 2013 was that while having compassion for other people is an important virtue, having compassion for yourself is something even more important and often neglected. Remember not to be too hard on yourself!
With that in mind, I can be happy having accomplished many great things this year. There are still many tweaks here and there that I have to work hard on implementing, but actually, being able to see more and more areas worth of improvement is a sign that you’ve already gone far in your self-development. Don’t let the vastness of the mountain scare you when you are at its base; with every step you take, you will find yourself more and more capable of reaching the top.
Most people aren’t very good at acknowledging their own shortcomings. Once you learn how to do that, while at the same time not being your own worst critic, you will be one step closer to being truly relaxed about living in the present, where you are supposed to live. Having confidence and being realistic about oneself are not mutually exclusive, although it seems that most people choose to do only one or the other, which is a huge shame.
Most people don’t truly live in the present. They worry, about the past or about the future. And they seek existential escape in things like television, sex, social media, partying too much, materialism etc. The list goes on. True happiness is not found in status; it is found in experiences, in little everyday moments, in appreciation of nature and of your place in it. It is found in family and in friends, in being there for loved ones and strangers alike. Learn how to live in the present. It may seem easy to do, yet most people still don’t.
So while I am not as physical fit as I would like (planned) to be, while my diet still needs improvement, and while I am far from as productive with my time as I need to be, I still had a fantastic year in terms of self-improvement.
More and more people are looking up to me as a good friend and as an overall good person. This satisfies me, not because of the status that may come with it, but because I know I am actively making other people’s lives better and that I am only doing it more and more as every day goes by.
If I was only allowed to list one benefit from self-development it would be this; to be able to be there more for other people. As an example, I view every meditation session of mine as benefiting not only myself, but everybody else in my life. In this view, self-improvement is great, not because it’ll make you a happier person, but because it will make those around you happier. And making other people happy…that is one of the most powerful and profound experiences a human being can have.
As always, thank you for reading my nonsensical gibberish. If you particularly liked the ideas of this post, then I’d really appreciate a like, comment, or a share. Thank you very much!