Unfortunately, I have a long history of failing. I know, I know…life is hard and we all fail from time to time. Its inevitable, because no one is perfect. But at the stage in life I am at right now, I will have to admit to myself that I’ve taken some really dumb decisions over the years.
Luckily, I’ve become quite aware of many of the reasons why I fail. And when I meet other people who fail in particularly important areas of life, like in building healthy habits, in getting a job they like, or in their love life, I see a number of repetitive patterns in their behavior. These are the most pervasive patterns I’ve found in people who fail:
- They make decision based on short-term interests instead of on long-term interests
- They have high and/or unrealistic standards for what they think they “deserve”
- They don’t work hard enough (or at all) to achieve their goals – nothing worth having comes without blood, sweat and tears
- They are generally pessimistic about life and about their situation
- They fail to see the beauty in small things
- They rarely take chances and travel the “safe” road instead
On the contrary, people who are successful are usually optimistic, diligent workers who rarely judge either themselves or others.
I don’t think I’ve met anyone yet who were a hundred percent satisfied with everything in their life, but generally, people who find success in their work- and love life are a) realistic about themselves, b) optimistic about the future, and c) hard workers.
This is a relatively short post, but I think that the most important things are often said in brevity. I love you, for example, are only three words, but man do they hold a lot of beauty and wisdom when put together.
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