As of today I’m two-three months and more than 20 hours in to my meditation practice. 20 hours might not sound like much, but it is recommended that any meditation novice start out slow.
At first I did 5 minutes a day. Then 10 minutes a day. Then 15. I now do 20 minutes a day plus infrequent unscheduled sittings and I will eventually do at least one 1 or 2 hour session a week.
Meditation is bringing me into contact with my emotions. I now know that I experience anxiety when confronted with having to do something I consider difficult and I know the reasons why the anxiety is there in every instance. Before I just thought I was feeling “bad” or “depressed” and tried to remedy the situation through things like alcohol, food or marijuana.
For example, I’ll get anxious when people I don’t know well want to schedule a meeting with me, as someone did today. I’m afraid they might get a bad impression of me and I’m afraid I might send out the wrong signals. I never admitted this to myself until recently.
As a meditation practitioner, it is becoming easier for me to accept my emotions and name them when they arise. ‘This is anxiety‘ I say to myself out loud. ‘It is okay that you are experiencing this sensation right now’.
And you know what? As soon as I identify and accept the emotion it often goes away or turns into something more practical. I have had great success turning anxiety into excitement, for example.
Meditation helps me with taking an objective look at the situation. What is it that I want to get out of it and am I being realistic in my judgement of it? Once I am clear about what I want I no longer worry.
There is no reason to think ahead. Stay in the now. But it is worth keeping in mind that any challenge met might open new doors in your life. This view makes the unknown a very exiting thing as opposed to something to be anxious about.
When it comes to meeting new people, for example, I think about what value I can add to their life right now and what value they might be able to add to mine right now. If it is likely that we’ll both get something positive out of meeting up then great! If not then no reason to waste their or my time.
Being able to take such meetings for what they are without reading too much into them is the right way to begin new friendships, relationships, professional partnerships and a whole lot of other ‘ships’.
So if you are having difficulties controlling your reactions to the things that happen around you, try meditation for a while and come back here and tell me how it went.
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